강아지 발달 단계와 반려견의 행동 #218

is going to have them say, yeah, there's more value over here than there is over there. Unless you have put in the skill to have that dog change their mind. Now, what is the third factor? And the third factor is will. And this one is a little bit controversial because to me, my dog's will to do what I ask them to do is all dependent on my ability to inspire that dog through motivational games, to want to have a relationship with me, to want to be my teammate, to want to hang out with me. And so, that isn't a given. Now, for some of you, maybe it has been and bravo to you, but I don't believe the expectation should be. Now, some people say if the dog chooses to not do something, they're being willful. Their will is saying, I'm not choosing that. Therefore, I need to go to coercion. I don't believe that's necessary. I believe we can use whatever that dog loves, even something from the environment as a reinforcer to build the will to want to work with you. So, four critical elements to all dog training, your expectations of your dog, your expectations of yourself, because I'm just going to remind you this, and I know you've heard it from me before, if you're a regular listener, I believe our dogs will always do the best they can with the education we've given them, aka the skill, in the environment that we've put them in. They're always going to do the best. So, if they run after a rabbit when you expected them to come when they were called, that is their best. It isn't them being willful or stubborn or blowing you off. It's the best they can do in the presence of a rabbit right now. All that you need to do is say, wow, my expectation might have been a little out of whack and I need to dig deeper into this game-based training that Susan Garrett talks about. More on that later. Okay. So, those are the four critical elements. Now let's talk about the developmental stages that I said upfront. There's seven of them. Now, the first few are really the ship sailed. Number one is a neonatal period, and that's from birth till two weeks of age. And why am I even mentioning it? Because we're not going to have any expectations of the puppy. I think it's really, really important for everybody to know. You might not know this. That's why I'm going to just squeeze it in, that puppies are born without the ability to regulate much of anything in their life. They can regulate heat and cold to a certain extent in that they can snuggle closer to mom, or they can crawl further away to get cool. And they can regulate

their eating in that they have the ability to use their nose and find milk source. That's pretty much it. They're born blind, they're born deaf, and they actually can't even pee or defecate on their own. They need co-regulation from their mother in that after she feeds them, she will lick the puppy's bellies and then lick their genital areas to get them to relieve themselves. So, zero regulation on a puppy's part from the, in the first two weeks of life. And then we get into the second stage, the transitional stage, which is two weeks to four weeks. And here's where puppy's eyes open, their ears open. Now, they still can't really see very well. They can see light, they can see shadows and blobs, but they really can't focus. So, it's still, they're transitioning from complete dependence, but they can now amble around, bump into their litter mates. And in this period, they'll start regulating through voice, through vocalization. You'll start to hear peeps that turn into yips. And it's kind of hysterical actually, as they go through these stages of learning to use their voice. During this stage, it's super important that these puppies get daily interaction with humans, touching, talking, that they learn the voices and the touch of the people in their life. Now, why am I telling you all this? Because some of the dog training problems you might be seeing might be related to these two first stages that your puppy may or may not have gotten. Now, I don't want you to be concerned and go, oh my gosh, now what? I don't think my dog got that. It doesn't matter. We're starting on square zero. I'm just saying that could have influenced it. I don't want you to worry about it. I just want you to move forward from that. All right. Stage number three. This is where the fun really starts. It's socialization period number one. Now, some people put these together. I break them up into two. So, socialization period number one is from four weeks to seven weeks. And this is where puppies really learn from their litter mates. Actually, they learn how to regulate when one of the litter mates is being a bully. One of the first things that I see in a litter of puppies is if they don't want to be picked on, they'll turn away. They'll turn their head. They'll turn their body. That's one of the first things that puppies do. They start learning all of these little cues based on the response it gets from another puppy. Well, that worked. Now, these are innate. They just come out of the dog, but it creates a response they're looking for. And then you'll see more and more of them develop

in that first socialization period. So, interacting with their litter mates is super important. So, those of you who have a singleton, like my guy Swagger, there may or may not have been any interaction. I actually drove Swagger twice a week to play with other puppies and another litter the same age, but a lot of singletons get nothing. So, that can impact the puppy's ability to self-regulate around other puppies or dogs. So, in this first socialization period is really where you see the puppy start being operant in that they learn. One of the things they learn really, really well is if you give them an area to potty, to urinate and defecate, they will seek out that area to keep the rest of their bedding area clean. So, that's a really cool thing. And it starts as young as four to seven weeks. It really does. My litters are pretty much potty trained by the time they leave here. So, socialization period number two goes from eight to 12 weeks. Now, this may be more pertinent for you because most of you won't be getting your puppies before that age. And ideally, you shouldn't. Best age to get a puppy for me is between 10 and 12 weeks. Yes, I do like them to stay with the breeder longer because in socialization period number two, they learn a lot from their dam. That's where they learn discipline. Now, all of the bitches that I've had that have had puppies and I've had several litters of Jack Russell's and Border Collies, I have never seen a bitch be mean to a puppy when they're disciplining. I would say 90% of the discipline happens through play. And the odd one that doesn't learn through play, the bitch just freezes. That's it. But it's really cool to see the responses of the puppy then lowering their body, giving a little tongue flick, telling the mom, I get the message and moving on. So, this is the second socialization period, which I think it's really important. And I recognize a lot of breeders say, no, you have to pick the puppy up at seven weeks. I beg if you can keep puppies together until at least nine weeks. And it's depending on the puppy. So, a younger puppy, and a lot of people listening to this goes, oh, no, no, no. I want to imprint with me. I want my puppy to… That's old. That's like old, old, old school. I'm sorry, guys. If you got a puppy at 12 weeks old and you can't build a relationship from that point on, you have seriously more problems than your dog staying with the litter too long. Really, let it go because it's so much healthier for the puppies. Now, the only caveat to that is if the breeder isn't doing a lot of work to help build new

socializing skills for that puppy. They need to see a lot of children, a lot of, you know, different kinds of people go on outings. There's a lot of things that breeders should be doing during that age. And if the breeder starts doing that too young, it actually can have the opposite effect. It can create some fear in the puppies if they get out to these environments in, you know, when they're too young for that. This is a great age, eight to 12 weeks when you have a litter of puppies, they love to follow mom. Even though they may or may not be drinking from mom anymore, you can use that follow instinct to teach puppies to stay with you on a walk. So, I take the whole litters around the field. Well, we don't go the whole way around because they're young, but we take them on these big adventure walks and they don't stray because I've got mom. Every once in a while, I'll stop and give them a drink from their mother or give them reinforcement for me. So, they're learning to follow humans. It's just, it's an amazing time as a breeder that you can teach new things. The adventure walk being one of them. Just know that in eight to 12 weeks is where you could possibly see the first fear period in that dog. And the environment alone can be scary. So, the environment in the litter, puppies are brave, but when they're alone, environments can be scary. So, you are the big comforter. You are who the puppy turns to, to get their confidence from. And take advantage of that. Meaning, this is the time when you get your puppy home at 9, 10, 11, 12 weeks old, that you should start playing those bonding relationship games like our recallers or our homeschool the dog games. And if you are listening to this and you're going, I don't know what you mean, or you know you need help, then I will let you in on a secret at the end of this on how we, my team and I will help you out with that. Okay. Now looking at these first four periods, you're not actually going to own that puppy until the last period, the socializing period two from eight to 12 weeks. If you have a puppy from a breeder, a responsible breeder, you won't be getting that puppy before eight to 12 weeks. So, now let's look at your expectations. What are your expectations? What is the skill that puppy should have? What is the environment where the puppy will be brilliant in? Well, for the first few weeks, because the environment's super scary, you are going to get this false sense of security because the puppy's going to be getting their confidence through you. And you're going to be

thinking, Oh my goodness gracious, this puppy just adores me. Look at how he just follows me everywhere. Yeah. That's kind of nice. It's how you bond because all these endorphins rush through your body and you're in love and your puppy, you think, Oh my God, they love me too. Look at how she's following me everywhere. Remember, this is a period of development. You are going to crash and burn very soon. If you don't recognize, you have to put in. Your expectations shouldn't be you anthropomorphizing what you're seeing and saying, it's because he loves me. No, relationships have to be built through reinforcement. Relationships have to be built through arranged coincidences so that the puppy will choose you. And starting to play games is the best way to do that. Now we're moving into period number five, and that is the juvenile period. That is from ages three months to six months. And here's where the quote unquote fun is really going to begin. Because here's what's going to happen. The environment's not going to be as scary because this puppy has grown confidence and they've learned nothing bad has happened in any new environment I've gone in. Therefore, confidence starts going through the roof. And this is where people say, my puppy's being naughty. My puppy's blowing me off. My puppy doesn't listen anymore. It's because puppies are born with unbelievable curiosity. And so, if you haven't put in some layered foundation to help grow that relationship, go back to what I said off the top. Environment always wins. Environment always wins. Now, if you're in a pickle because of this, it can be fixed. Don't get too concerned. But I just want to open your eyes to the fact, what are your expectations of that puppy's skill versus how much have you put in without, yes, we use reinforcement to build behavior, to build understanding. But can you go into any environment without reinforcement on you and ask your puppy to do these things? That's where we're heading. And until we get there, we need to manage in environments. Don't let them have access to bunny farms because they're going to make choices you're going to think are bad, but they're not bad. As far as that puppy's concerned, they're awfully good. They're making choices because the environment always wins. Period number five is a biggie. Now at the end of period five, you might see some puppies starting to deal with hormones. And in podcast episode 217, where I talk about being able to self-regulate, this is a new ball game when we move into period number six,

where we're dealing with our puppy's adolescence. They're over six months old. The adolescent stage goes from six months to 18 months, and they're going to learn how to deal with all these hormones rushing through their bodies. They've probably had a couple of vaccines and that can affect behavior change as well. And if you're of the type that uses things like topical pesticides on your dogs for fleas or tick, that could also have effects on your dog as well as nutrition and all these other things. So, you're going to see changes. And this is where people think, oh, my dog has changed, or my dog has become a brat, or my dog. No, they don't need to have the firmer hand of God on them. They just need your expectations to look at the time that you've put in on yourself. What is your education? How much have you learned? Are you learning just through blog posts and the odd YouTube or surfing YouTube for answers? That is not fair to your dog. That is not fair to your puppy. You know, I always tell my students, the smarter you become, the better behavior dogs become. And so, you need that investment. Expectations, skill, environment, and the dog's will. The dog will show you, oh, I can listen to you all you want as an adolescent in the kitchen when you're opening a slice of cheese. But outside when there's other dogs, I can't, I can't function. And you see, it's not the dog's fault. They're always doing the best they can. I think it's super important that you understand that. We move to our final stage, which is from 18 months to anywhere around three years that that dog is finally mature. 18 months, they may look their physical height and they may not grow substantially after that, but emotionally and mentally, there is still a long way for them to go. So, please don't have the expectations be like, they should know better now. They are an adult dog. They might physically look like one, but they are a long way from being that adult dog. Now, when you think of your own dog, whatever stage of development that they are in right now, you've got to think about the training of both the skills you want for them to be an amazing family pet and the emotional wellbeing conditioning that you need to put in time so that you are building positive CERs, positive conditioned emotional responses to environments that they need to go to, including the veterinarian or maybe the groomers. They need to be given the opportunity to say, yes, I want my nails done. And no dog that I know of is born that way. You have to grow your education to put in the time to help that dog, no matter what stage they are,

to grow not just behaviors. It's not just about coming when called and bringing you the paper. And it's not just about whatever sport you want to play. It's about putting that dog's emotional wellbeing first. Now, what I mentioned early on, for those of you who are ready to put your dog's emotional wellbeing first and want to know how you connect with your dog, I strongly encourage you to look into our Recallers program, but there's a hitch. Recallers, although it's available on our website, anyone can buy it right now. It's, I believe, twice the price that we sell it at during our big Connected Dog event that we hold once a year. But because you are listening to this podcast episode, if you write to my team at wagatdogsthat.com, now listen really closely. I want the subject line to be, my dog needs skills. And let's truthfully, if you put, I need skills, we're going to give you an opportunity to join our Recallers community. And it won't be at the investment that you see on the website, even though it'd be amazing, even if you had to pay full price. If you're listening to this podcast, I want you to be able to have the kind of life I'm talking about. I mean, it's magical. It's magical when you look through the lens of what are my expectations of my dog? How can I have high expectations because I know my dog's will is as high as my expectations. I hope all this makes sense to you. It's a lot to cram into one podcast episode. Please jump over to YouTube, leave me a comment, let me know what this all makes sense to you. And while you're over there, please leave a like. And please also to be sure to share this episode with anybody you know, either getting a puppy, has a puppy, or is struggling with their dog. I'll see you next time right here on Shaped by Dog.