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low carriage, uh, tail carriage, eyes wide body and head turning away leaves work. Choose grass. Ooh, pass Kelly. I'm so glad you picked that one up because so many people don't understand that that is, that, that could be a sign of anxiety with their dog. It doesn't have to be Kim's dog. Like he just gets outside to play and he just starts shredding grass. Um, buddy looks at birds. Uh, Ellie Mae, my standard poodle pins her ears shows me the whites of her eyes really good. So you guys have got it. You've got a lot of signs of, of stress. I haven't seen any though. Um, that of dogs, like there are dogs who stress high and you may not see it. So if you have a dog who stress is high, especially if you do dog agility, what else would you see barking and lunging? Kathy says, that's a great one that people wouldn't realize. That's a, that's a sign of low confidence. Um, facials, facial expressions, uh, bark and runs to his leash, goes sniffing, gives you eye contact lip licking. That's a good one. Karen yawns and stretches that could be it. And, and you know, all of these signs don't mean your dog's lacking confidence. I don't want people to go looking for the, Oh my dog just stretched. That means that they're stressing. They're low on confidence. You know, any one sign may or may not be, it's getting a pattern and getting to know your dog. That's how your dog will communicate with you. Okay. Cecilia got one dogs who stress, who get, who, who are not, who are unsure of something there's, they want to show you a lack of confidence. They may do it by getting the zoomies and just ripping Dawn. Good one. Throwing multiple tricks, you know, like I'm going to sit, I'm going to pay. I'm going to, I don't know what you want. I'm unsure. And I'm just want to make you happy. Um, zoomies, zoomies, lots of obsessive whining. Okay. You guys get it. So some agility dogs will just start grabbing obstacles. They're, they're like, they're not sure what you want. And so they'll just take off, get the zoomies and just start. I'll do a tunnel. I'll do jump like this. This is making me happy. I don't know what's going on here. She ain't happy with me right now. Right? So, okay, great. I've got now the second question I have for you. Okay. What is your response when you're training your dog and they show you a lack of confidence? What do you do? What do you do? That's kind of sounds like, uh, like old time dog training, right? Uh, Oh, Lynn, I wish I, I'm going to screen cap that. Cause that's a great comment. I'm just going to

screen cap and I'm going to try and bring that back so everyone can see it at some point. Cause that's an awesome comment. So what do you do in training? Um, I give my dog more support. Kathy, what does that look like? Tell me what you do. Slow down, make things. I try to calm him down. Okay. Liz, what does that look like? I give him time to investigate, play a game of tug. Uh, Marion, you're way ahead of us, but good on you. Good girl. Thank you. Play, um, an easy game like hand touches or tug. And then I go back to basics. Rachel. I like that one. Uh, cheer them on when they make it the right choice, make the environment easier. So they feel safer, move away from the distractions. So that's a good one. Depends on what it is. That's true. Uh, Rylan, it really depends on what it is. So if it's stimulus, I step away and work with playing on something and to get them more comfortable. That's a, that's, that's so true. I made it a very vague question. So you can give me like, you know, whatever you want as you know, make up your own scenario, go back to the last known point of success. Take a step back. I quit often see a turn and sniff. Okay. A lot of good, a lot of good things. Uh, Christian acknowledges that, you know, that she probably lumped and I want to, I want to save this whole chat. This, you guys are nailing this. This is awesome. Really, really, really good answers here. Okay. I want to share that. Um, as I mentioned, a dog's showing a lack of confidence could present itself a number of ways, depending on if your dog tends to get excited high or tends to get worried and withdrawn, right? Like there's some of us that when we're nervous, we just start talking more. And there's others that when we're nervous, we just clam up, but I'm, I bet you can guess which one I am. Okay. So our dogs are the same that different dogs will express their lack of confidence in different ways. And a lot of times what triggers the lack of confidence is a lack of clarity as to what is, what are, are, what is to do, what the dog's supposed to do next of so often in dog training, especially in sports. Oh my gosh, because people want to get to the sexy part of sports. I want to get to the part where my dog is, is like moving the sheep with their eyes. I want to get to the part where my dog's weaving the poles. I want to get to the part where my dog's biting the bad guy, right? Where people are just so anxious to get to the sexy parts of sports that they, they overwhelm the dog. They don't recognize those

little signs of stress that the dog or the lack of confidence that the dog is showing. And they just keep piling on as Kristen said, maybe I lumped without knowing. And then the dog, it starts to show you these signs and they start to crack. Now, what do, what happens? What do you do? You know, I'm going to tell you a story back in, uh, 1991, I had a really, really cool border collie. I've got, I've always, I've just been so blessed with my dogs. They're all amazing, but Stoney was, um, phenomenal. She was the first ever dog to win all three championships in USDA. She was the first triple crown runner, winner ever. She won team steeplechase and the grand prix. Um, she was the anchor dog on the world record fly ball team did fly ball for many years and was always the, one of the, if not the fastest border collie of her era. And she was a multiple, multiple high and trial winner in obedience. Like she was just on amazing dog. Now back when I was training her in obedience, here's what would happen. I love to heal. I love dressage. I come from a background in the horse world. I worked dressage and to me healing and dressage are so similar. And it was, it's like, it was like my Zen thing to do. And here's what now keep in mind back then I used balanced training. So lots of lures for to teach the dog what I wanted. And then little app for when they made wrong choices and a little pop, those little things erode the, the trust the dog has in us. Cause they're, they become now a little bit worried about, I don't want to displease you. I got to make you happy. And so here's what would happen. Stoney and I, we, we worked healing so great together that sometimes I would heal that dog for 20 minutes, but eventually what happened is at about 19 minutes, she would start to, some of you showed, told me what it was, show the whites of her eyes, pin her ears a bit, little bit of stress panting. And then I'd go, oh crap, I've been healing this dog for 20 minutes. Now I would reward her and stuff. And, but, and so I would break it off. I'd go, oh my gosh, I got to make this easier. I would go and do, she loved to do tricks. I do some tricks and then I'd put her away. Have you guys heard the expression shaped by dog? Yeah. It's the name of the podcast for a reason, because throughout my life, I realized how I've been shaped by dog. And then I, when I started tuning in to what the messages, the dogs were really trying to share with me, I became a much better dog trainer. So that 19 minutes became 18, became 16, between 15,

between, eventually I would, I would heal with her for a minute and a half and she'd give me the same signs. So when your dog says I'm lacking confidence and you go back and make it easier, there is a risk you run that you are teaching the dog through reinforcement, reinforcement builds behavior, that, that when you pin your ears and look at me like this, I'll stop what I'm doing. Now I'm not saying that you should make the dog work when they're showing your dog's body language is giving you feedback. You have over-faced me with this and, and I hope you're noticing that your, your strategic plan of training is flawed. That's what they're saying. And so what do you do? And so what I do is, is immediately I know, I recognize that my dog is lacking confidence. So what I will do is many of you said, I mean, if there's an obvious distraction, if it's fear, not, not confidence, if it's fear, like there's another dog nearby, um, that, that, that, you know, like this is going, oh my God, I can't work with that dog nearby. Then yes, get them away from that distraction. And I might ask them to do something that I know that they will have success with. And then I'll go back and maybe do one repetition of what I was asking for, and then we'll just play, but I may not even ask for that. Right? So if I'm working, um, for example, the seesaw has been a challenge with this. She wasn't confident. She was really afraid of the movement of it, of the noise of it. And so, uh, and I, obviously I break behaviors down very, very small, but when I, what I would do is I would always do a little bit and then move to another, another, another, um, station. So I would, I would set up my training knowing that I would do what she loves to do first, something that I know is going to challenge her, but that she's capable of second. And that's where I would see the lack of confidence. And then I would immediately go to something that she's very successful with and loves to do next. And that's when like in our, our online programs, I'm thinking particularly about dog agility because it's so much complexity in dog agility. And if you aren't careful, you will overwhelm your dog. We set up our lessons in a way that we give you, uh, several things to do and you decide, Oh, my dog's brilliant at that. I'm going to stick that right at the beginning, get them pumped up. This one is new. I'm going to put that one in there. And then I'm going to end with this again. Right? So that that's what you do. Um, when your dog is, is, is a dog that's

immediately in the middle of training, you go, what's going on. You, you've always loved this. Sometimes it won't be obvious what that has got them worried. But if you go back to your notes and you look, look at your training plan and say, have I overwhelmed this dog? It'll probably, you know, that, that answer will probably come up to you. Uh, very, very make become very clear to your dog. All right. Again, fear is something completely different. We always believe our dogs when they're showing fear. We just get them out. Actually, I think I did a podcast on how to strategically plan your training so that you, um, you, you keep continue to build confidence, but you need to have a really good training plan to begin with. And God bless all the people who are doing local training in your area, but you've got to know so many people, especially those training sports don't have the experience to be able to break things down in a meaningful, meaningful way that builds confidence. For example, when I first learned how to do agility, and I know there are people still doing it. It was about getting the dog to run to a, a target with a cookie on it. Right? So you run, get her dog to run to that. And they recognize the little margarine lids, lids means cookies are going to be on it. And then we can put it at the bottom of a dog walk or a seesaw or at the end of a row of jumps. And the dog just learns agility is about running to things that they want. And that the other things just like wrote, you know, things in the way, uh, as we run to the food or the toys that we want. And then what happens is you have created an illusion in your mind. You think, how many dogs getting this? They're doing really well. They're weaving with weaves with the wires on and they're running to things. And you think, oh, we were, we are all that and a big can of Coke. And then lo and behold, what's going to happen? Your dog is going to, maybe it might be when you take them to the first or second trial, they are going to start to crack because your training was just an illusion because it was just about run to the things you love. Guess what? There'll be none of those things in the ring. It'll just be you, your dog and the obstacles. And so what you want is a strategic plan that you build love of every obstacle before you ever try to do a sequence or a trial. So important. So very important. Okay. Now what about, Um, you know, if you, if you have a dog who just naturally a little bit tentative about, about training and Kristen said, you know, really look at the, the podcast on temp.

What I like to do is I like to have my dog borrow confidence, meaning I will take that dog training with another dog. Now you may only have one dog. That's fine. You just ask a friend, can you come with me? And I'm going to take, and I did this with, with, um, this is yes, I have other dogs who are confident, but I can't manage two dogs at the same time. So I would arrange for friends to meet me at parks or at malls when I was training this so that if she would go, and then she'd look at the other dog and the dog's like, that was in my ear. What is your deal? And she would go, did you see it? And then she'd go, Oh, okay. And then she just sit in my girl tail. Borrowed confidence. So I would borrow the confidence of the other dog. And, and, and then I do really good dog training of things she could do. And eventually I started to get a competent dog, borrowed confidence. It works for you too. All right. It works for you too. And so what, what happens is with confidence, it starts with, Oh, I'm not, I'm not a very confident, a very competent person. And now I've got to try and train a dog. And if your dog happens to not be incredibly confident and you don't know the things that you should be doing to bring out that confidence. Now that's a terrible combination. Back when I started in horses, I was told the worst thing, the worst combination, uh, ever is a new rider in a green horse. And that's true in anything in life. So if you are new to owning a dog and guess what? You have your first dog who's new to being part of a family, then that ideally isn't a great, a great combination. So what can you do? What you can do is make sure that you're, you're following a plan that makes sense that you're building confidence on each level. I tell my students all the time, our number one job as a dog owner is to protect any confidence that's there and grow more confidence. Number one job we have protect and grow our dog's confidence. Therefore, if you're in a training class and your dog isn't doing something that the instructor expects and they say, let me take your dog, stand in front of your dog and say, can you just share with me what you're going to do? Because if they take their dog, your dog, number one, your dog is going to lower in confidence because who the heck are you? And if they take your dog and their intention is to show them what they should be doing, just say, you know what? It's my bad. You're doing a great job here, but I just feel like that she's not in a great place for me to have that

happen. Oh, please don't be embarrassed. We are the best advocates for our dogs. Do not let anyone show you. Just thank you, smile pretty. And then if they insist, leave. Right? Our number one job, protect and grow our dog's confidence. And that happens best when training is either an environment rich of reinforcement and clarity, because as I've said in many of my podcasts in my lives, confidence comes from clarity. Where do we get that clarity? An amazing lesson plan. What is your plan? And I'm going to tell you all of our programs, the plan starts with the dog making their own choice to do. They're the director of the training. So I have a list of what I'm going to do. And it starts with, it's your choice. Would you like to work with me? There's a cookies. I'm going to try and steal them. All right, let's just try and work with that. It's your choice first. Then crate gains and hot zone. And now I have a dog who has clarity. Oh, I know how to work with this person. Yeah, it's good. And then we start growing layers upon layers upon layers. That's what training focusing on confidence looks like. I'm just going to share my screen with you because now that I've got this up, hold on. Hold on because I have been talking about dog agility. So first of all, I guess it's all right. It's all right. If I ask, I'm going to ask you guys, would you like to see what I taught, what I mean? I'm going to show you here. If this makes more sense. So, so, so if you look at if clarity is at the bottom, this is the pink on the left-hand side, that is just games. Like it's your choice. Crate games, hot zones, interaction to create clarity about, oh, we're working together. Oh, okay. That's fun. It's not about putting a cookie and getting them to chase the cookie. It's about them making choices. And then we grow their confidence for it. They go from that, that kind of the pink to the salmon, like, oh, I'm getting confident. This is cool. And, and we don't, we, we, we do that by adding the, adding layers of lessons that just build on the ones before. And if our dog doesn't get it, we don't move forward. You see complexities at the top. Complexity is a result of growing confidence. Okay. So do you, would you guys like to see what this looks like in our agility program? If, if, and I know you might not be interested in it, in dog agility, but it goes across the board for any dog sport. And it even goes across when you're starting with a puppy. So if you, if you, you'd like, I can just pull this up on my screen. Uh, if, if you guys would like to see what that looks like. Um,

how do I socialize a puppy who's afraid to be outside? I create a game that the dog loves and that's where our recaller games come in our homeschool, the dog games, we play them in the house and now they're brimming with confidence. And now I go out onto the porch and then I go back on the house and then I go out on the grass and then I come back on the house. Okay. There's, there's enough of you that like to see that. I will share that, but that's a great question, Danielle. How do I socialize a puppy who's afraid to be outside? We, that's where games come in because when a dog is afraid to be outside, they're taking, they're, they're, they're like focusing on the wrong thing. Oh my gosh. I don't know what that is. I don't know what that is. Oh, so we need to create something that they can focus on. That's, that's, that's there brings them back to, oh, I got that. Like a game of tug, a game of hand touch, tug, a game of hand touch, chase a cookie, chase me. Okay. All right. I'm going to, I pulled this up. And what I've got for you is, um, this is just a glimpse into our, because it's easy. It's so simple. It's the same as that the pink to the Sam, to the salmon, to the yellow, to the green, to the blue, to the purple. This is exactly how I train my dogs in agility. This is exactly the same thing. And, and how I train my dogs in agility is exactly how I train my students' dogs. So it starts with prep school. So prep school is that first layer is a salmon layer. And that's where we grow our dogs confidence. It we're figuring out, are you afraid of this? Are you great at this? And we don't do anything to do with any agility equipment until they say, oh yeah, I like to chase you. I'm not afraid of that. Then we go into flat work. There's still no agility equipment. And if you look at, let's just pick one of these. So each of these is, of course, let's pick flat work. Okay. I'm going to open this up flat work. It's got 12 lessons could be 12 weeks. And let's just randomly pick, uh, lesson three. I don't know. So as I said, lesson three, there'll be three, one, two, three, four, five, six. Uh, it's really five games. And I always put a pro tip. So something me as a professional dog trainer, a savvy world champion of agility, I will always put a pro tip early on so that people really learn the, um, how to think forward, think in their agility planning. All right. So that's, I don't want to, I know some of you aren't interested in dog agility, but I just want you to see what it looks like. So any one of these, um, oh, you know what? Let's

jump into another. Let's just, uh, go back into here and let's just say, okay, so we're picking this game called the collected squirrel and you look at the game and it will have for clarity because you can't be confident until your dog is. So there's a video for you to watch. And then you click on this PDF, you get a PDF because I need you as my student to have a complete understanding of what it is you're doing because you can't create clarity in your dog. If you don't have clarity in what you're doing. So, so that just gives you an insight when, when you're teach, when you're deciding, I'm going to train my puppy or train my dog, that's what it should look like. And I believe an online classroom is absolutely the best place to learn. Am I saying, don't go to in-person classes? That's not what I'm saying. Where are we most confident in our home? Our dogs are the same way. So teach everything to them for the first time and then go to an online class. You might get like three or four weeks into an online class and then sign up for an in-person class. And you're going to show up and they're going to go, wow, like where have you been taking this dog? Because for a first, for, you know, especially if you have a puppy, it's going to blow them away because games, strategically layered games just brings out the confidence in a dog. It's, I mean, we've proven it over and over and over again. Okay. Um, so Marion talks the same thing with our recallers programs. When I started with recallers, um, it's amazing so much information. So it's the same thing. I'm just going to share one other thing with you here. Uh, this was, um, just one of our handling 360 students said, I started with H260 because I was always behind my dog. All right. So you don't have confidence as a handler because you're behind your dog. And our program is made so that anybody can have success. So we have verbals and it makes, and as she, she said, it's just incredible clarity. That's the main word. What are you doing right now to bring out clarity in your dog? And more important than that, as I spoke about on yesterday's live, what is the most important thing is you, I need you to be confident. So if you aren't confident, it's going to be very difficult to bring out the confidence in your dog. And where are you going to get that confidence? Well, number one, you borrow it from me. Just like I allow this to borrow it from another dog because I've had so many students come through our programs from homeschool, the dog and recallers and handling

360 and agility nation, like tens of thousands of people have come through our programs and I've seen them change. I've seen their dog training ability go through the roof, but I've seen them change as a human being. And that is what clarity will bring to you. And so where do you get that confidence? You borrow it from me because I've seen it happen in so many students that I have no doubt it will happen in you. And that's, we first instill this belief in you, you know, your dog's capable of it, but you're not sure you are, but you can't lose when you've got a proven program, right? A proven lesson plan. And so that's what I would love for you. So if you are still thinking about this, I'm just going to share one more thing with you. Oh, wait a minute. I asked you two questions. I'm going to do three gifts today, right? Two and I don't know how I got to that, but anyway. I asked you two questions. I'm going to have three giveaways and I'll get to that in a second. But I see a lot of you asking about, well, what do I do now? So I'm going to give you one more share here. And this is, this is what you do now. You just go and I'll put the, I'll put the URL up on the bottom here. So you can see it. Dogsat.com cyber. We have our cyber event going on right now. And you can see all of our programs are available here. You have a dog who's terrified of having their nails done. That's our pedicure please program. You have a dog. You're not sure where to start. Homeschool the dog. Recallers is our flagship for starting to grow clarity and confidence in your dog. It's a year round coaching program versus like homeschool the dog is a four month coaching program. Paleo link 360 is for those who want step-by-step in agility training. Agility nation is a membership where you pick the training you want for agility. It's not handling it's the obstacles. And then I see peeps is really a higher level, but what, why, what you do is when you come to this page, you can click on uh, this video right here. It tells you, do you see this a little bit of, uh, I don't know. It's like some graphic in the background there. I drew that myself. Thank you. Hearts for my art. Um, and it just does a flow chart to help you find out what's the best program for you. That's what it's all about. All right. So I'm going to stop my share right now. And I'm going to now talk to you about the prizes that I'm giving away today. And so yesterday we had, I got to ask my team, how many, how many people shared? So if you would like to be up for a prize for tomorrow's 12 days of gift giving, then all that you have to do is share.

First of all, like this video, you know what, can you, how about, how about a heart heart for this video? If you believe that our number one job is to grow, protect and grow our dog's confidence. How about a heart on this video? Number two. And if you're watching this on YouTube, is that like a thumbs up? I don't know. I can't remember what we do on YouTube. Number two, you're going to share this video to your social media, either to Facebook or Instagram or I don't know where else. Is it YouTube, TikTok, Twitter, Pinterest, share this video because I would love for the world to really, number one, be focused on their dog's confidence. Number two, have the, the knowledge that they have the right to say, no, thank you. When an instructor says, let me take your dog and show them. If for no other reason, could you please share this video for that? But while you're sharing it, you will be entered into a draw for tomorrow's giveaway. And so what's going to happen is you come back here and you write in the comments, yes, Susan, I shared it. And when you share it, tell somebody what you learned from today's video. This is what I learned. It was amazing. Tell people what you learned. Come on back here and say, I shared it three places. I shared it in Twitter and Instagram and I shared it. And where, where, if you say you shared it in three places, we're going to put your name into the draw three times. Okay. So we have, ooh, the odds are really good for today's prizes. So there are 62 shares on yesterday's video. Let's try to get to a hundred on, on today's. All right. Let's, let's aim for a hundred shares on today's video. There are 62, which means I'm giving away three prizes. And so what are those odds? That's like one in 20.7 or something, right? I'm not great at that, but somewhere around there. Okay. So here's what we're going to do. I need to get my magical spinny wheel, spinny wheel number generator pulled up here. And my number again, pull it up here. I'm giving away three. Oh, I got to tell you what these prizes are first of all. So this is, okay. First of all, I'm going to tell you the people at Gallican, Gallican, Gallican, G-A-L-I-C-A-N, Gallican Dog Agility Equipment. My personal favorite. Like I, I have loved Gallican Dog Agility Equipment for a very, very, very long time. And I now am such a big supporter that they are a sponsor of the program. And so I, it's, it's, I say, can I give away some of your stuff? This is some of you may, may be doing running contacts. So you need something like this is a piece of a contact. It's the rubber that's off of the contact, but I love

this for teaching my dog body awareness because it's a different feel. For example, with this, she was so unstable as a puppy. She wanted to display her rear end. When I use this, it helped her. I could shape very easily when your feet are both inside this I'll click. So I think everybody, it's a simple little thing. Everyone should have a piece of that. So you can buy that at Gallican, but I'm giving one away right now. The other thing I'm giving away, the amazing people at Zentech, they have donated these crate mats that are cooling mats. You can see the material inside space age, space age, it's Nassau developed. And the third thing from our people at, at For My Merles, your very own insulated, shaped by dog, a cup. You can put hot drinks in here. You can put cold drinks in here. It's, it's, it's a, it's a knockoff of the more famous insulated cups. That sounds like Shetty, but I can't say the name of that company, but truth be told, these were made in the same factory. Okay. Don't, don't get me in trouble here. All right. So I'm giving away three. Number one will be my piece of, uh, rubber contact from my friends at Gallican. Number two is going to be the Zentech. And number three is going to be the sounds like Shetty, but it's a little bit different. Okay. So we are, I'm going to just double check on my number 62 is a number. So I'm going to share my screen. So you guys can see it's a hundred percent legit. And we're going to do this three times. And guess what? If the same person wins, they win the same person could win all three. If that would be like, you would run out and buy a lottery ticket right away. Okay. So let's share the screen first share my screen. Boom. Chakalaka. I'm putting in a number is 62. And the lucky winner is, oh, oh, you're missing out on the cool sounds. All right. 29. Now we're going to do it again. And we're going to put the sounds up there. Cause like, you know, you all got to join in list. Here we go. What are the chances? It's going to be 29 again. 8. Okay. Now what are the chances it's eight or 29 again? Three times. Boom. Oh, so close. Oh my God. Okay. It's a little things in life that make me happy. It's the, ta-da! Ta-da! Three prizes. You guys can win. Please help me in sharing this video. And I will see you tomorrow. Oh, unless there's, if there's any questions, I just want to scroll through here. So remember if you've right shared, come on back here. I'm going to, I'm going to get the names of those three winners before I sign off here. If you're right shared, come on back here and tell me how

many times you've shared it. Isn't Zoe, isn't that awesome? Just makes me smile. Ta-da! Ta-da! If you've shared this video, I'm going for a hundred. Should I, should I win? Let Nassau drop it from space into the Netherlands where I live. Okay. Here are our winners. And I know for sure that at least one of you are on here. Zoe Carter, you are winning the piece of rubber for training from my good friends at Galacan and Brianna or Breanne Gossman. You're winning the Zentech mat and Deidre Luttrell. You're winning the amazing sounds like Yeti. Oh, I think I just screwed it up there. Didn't I? Uh-uh. Sounds like Shetty mug. Oh my gosh. I think I've been on air too long. Okay. Tomorrow we'll be back here with a new word. I'm sharing all of the words that are super important to me in dog training. And I know if these 15 words were become part of your vocabulary, when you're talking about dog training or just thinking about training your own dogs, the world would be a better place because we're all being shaped by dogs and we can become the person we're meant to be when we train a dog with a focus of kindness. I'll see you guys tomorrow. Thank you for being here. 100 shares. Let's do it.