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Kay Laurence의 관점
Connection(유대감)의 핵심 요소: Contentment(만족감), Trust(신뢰), Safe(안전함).
산책 교육 시: 반려견의 natural pace(자연스러운 속도)에 맞춰 걷는 것을 강조함.
mutually comfortable(상호 간에 편안한) 상태를 찾기 위해 사람이 매우 느리게 걸어야 할 수도 있음.
sheepballs(특정 놀이 도구/활동)에 관한 상세 설명은 향후 별도 페이지를 통해 제공할 예정임.
Sally Smith의 관점
Connection(유대감): 감정과 합리적 사고를 기반으로 한, 말로 표현되지 않는 깊은 상호 인식(deep unspoken mutual awareness).
인용: “I am Heathcliffe. He is always always in my mind” (에밀리 브론테의 소설 '폭풍의 언덕'을 인용하여, 항상 마음속에 상대가 존재하는 유대감을 표현).
info2의 관점
Connection(유대감): 서로의 natural rhythm(자연스러운 리듬)을 이해하는 것.
상대방을 이해하고, 바라봐 주며, 온전히 수용하는 태도.
Scott Stauffer의 관점
유대감의 구체적 사례들:
있는 그대로의 존재만으로 "Thank You"(고마워)라는 말을 들을 때.
누군가 당신에게 조금 더 곁에 있어 달라고 부탁할 때.
"Thanks for letting me vent. Thanks for not trying to fix me."(내 감정을 털어놓게 해줘서 고마워. 나를 고치려 하지 않아 줘서 고마워.)라는 메시지를 받을 때.
반려견이 문제 행동을 하는 대신, 따뜻하고 푹신한 엉덩이를 당신에게 기대올 때.
도움이 필요할 때 누군가에게 손을 뻗는 것.
크게 웃거나 잔디 혹은 흙 위를 구르는 행동.
감사의 미소.
예상치 못한 곳에서 인정받는 느낌을 주는, 대부분 비언어적인 의사소통.
"yes, I’ll do that again for you."(응, 너를 위해 다시 그렇게 할게.)라고 다짐하게 만드는 느낌.
Connection(유대감)의 필수 조건: 상대방이 나를 들어주고(heard) 인정해 준다(appreciated)는 느낌이 없으면 아무런 가치가 없음.
유대감은 평온한 시기뿐만 아니라, 특히 stressful situation(스트레스가 많은 상황) 이후에 더욱 중요함.
Connection(유대감): 서로 함께 있을 때 편안함을 느끼고, 의사소통이 원활하며, 상대의 행동을 미리 예측할 수 있고, 함께하는 즐거움이 있는 상태.Trust(신뢰), Shared interests or views(공통된 관심사나 견해), Seeing things from a different perspective(다른 관점에서 사물을 보는 것), Attention to detail(세부 사항에 대한 주의), Effort(노력), Tolerance(관용), Desire to give joy(기쁨을 주고자 하는 열망).The Connection Collective Seeing with New Eyes Life with Dogs Key Skills Puppies : First Year ➤ Connection Collective Every Dog Every Day Book Teaching with Reinforcement Book Training with Food Connection is at the heart of our lives. It has no boundaries and no measure. It is offered freely and without charge. Articles on Connection Contributions from many authors. I wanted her to be a “naughty” dog. by Frances McCormack ... my breath catching with joy as I watched her canine self unfold. Read more ... Deep love and trust for each other by Heather Binns I learnt about connection with my horse Magnum. Read more ... Conversation for life by Julie Van Schie Living with a dog is about developing a relationship and all successful relationships are based on connection. Read more ... What does connection look like? by Chris Bond Activities can all be done with or without connection, but with connection they appear fluent. Read more ... Connection is always there if you're looking for it. Laura Holder ... of yogis, dogs and humans by Sylvie Mazan An expression of trust, relationship and the deep attraction, which develops so easily between dogs and their human fellows. Read more ... Connection is a very personal experience. What is connection for one person may not be for another. We can feel connected to people, to art, to a landscape, to a house. From a beginning of total dependency graduating to a fulfilling relationship that flows in many streams over different landscapes. Connection can flow strongly or meander peacefully. It can be seasonal with different characteristics that bring their own values. KL Complete trust. No doubt. Laura Holder This Wild Idea An inspiring photographer, person-who-connects-with-a-dog, website: Photo: Theron Humphrey "These days I like to think my photography exists somewhere between that country living and city ideals. Images with roots and connections but excited about big lights and tall buildings." thiswildidea.com Connection is a dynamic quantity by Silvia Franken Connection is a dynamic product of three ingredients: an emotional bond, memory and mental focus. Read more ... Connection is reinforcing by Kay Laurence Dogs will often choose how they maintain their connection with you. The thread that binds the pack, is an invisible and easily dismissed. Read more ... The Joy of Learning Curiosity, discovery, success, confidence, understanding, growth: all of these things can nurture a joy of learning for its own sake. Read more ... Connection starts with invitation by Sarah Owings A precious freedom that fills the space betw
een two beings when there is no agenda, no time limit, no “have to get it done.” Read more ... Emma Parsons Feeling comfortabe by Iris Maxfield We take time to train, but how connected are we as their trainer? Read more ... Connection is knowing when you can lean on a friend Kay Laurence A lesson in connection by Susan Friedman It surprises me that it is a lesson I need repeated so often. Read more ... This page is a dedication to all the animals we share our lives with. A spotlight on how connection underpins our relationships. Many different thoughts and ways of expressing connection. From photographs, quotes to articles. The wonderful aspect of a webpage is the unlimited amount of material we can collect. I would love to include your ideas on the page. An article from 5 to 5000 words would be very welcome, a quote that resonates with you, an experience that describes what connection between people and dogs is for you. We may be able to share ways of connecting, strengthen connection and open up those “new eyes” for those who have lost the connection. 7 Comments Iris Maxfield on 27th December 2018 at 6:01 pm Connection Being attuned to the emotional state of another being, a desire to create collaboration, listening, the art of being present in a relationship, emotional connection and empathy. We can feel an instant connection when we first meet another being whether two feet or four paws, equally we may have to work hard at making that connection, feeling comfortable in their presence, understanding who they are and then being able to read their emotional state, depending on the closeness of the relationship. Dogs are pretty unique in the way that they tune in to human emotions. Paying REAL attention to our four pawed friend, need only take a few minutes at a time, but to be there and present in that time with them, can create connection and value. Over time they’ll seek more of that connection with you. Building or improving the connection. It all takes time, that’s the hard bit, patience, listening , watching, being aware and commitment to being in the moment with them is all part of building the connection. We may take time to train, but how connected are we as their personal trainer? Do we share jokes and story’s or is it just pay and go? Virus-free. http://www.avast.com Reply andreataylor1@virginmedia.com on 16th January 2019 at 11:59 am For me it is contentment. Contentment in each other’s company in a fluid relaxed way that can be moved fluently to training mode because training is fun for both parties. Confidence that we will listen and hear e
ach other, responding to mood, situation and environment. Teaching skills that help our dogs to feel safe and trust our decision making. I am currently experimenting with a walking protocol which is moving away from the dog always having to keep at an unnatural pace in walk. So far the effects are amazing. We are so much more connected. So far as clients are concerned the same contentment and trust I feel is hugely important in order to convey our teaching in a way that it can be absorbed and understood. Humour can help and in some cases break down walls of tightness and embarrassment but just like the dogs all people are different and individual approaches of contentment must be sought. Not one size fits all. Meanwhile I was actually trying to find a place where I can ask a question about my interpretation of sheep balls if anyone can point me in the right direction. The one small thread I found doesn’t seem the appropriate place as my question is several paragraphs. Reply Kay Laurence on 16th January 2019 at 2:32 pm Contentment is a lovely part of connection, along with trust and safe. I always teach walking at a natural pace for the dog, even if the person has to go, really, really slowly to find mutually comfortable. Until I have a page dedicated to sheepballs, I do not have a format for lengthy discussion. ……. soon though. Reply Sally Smith on 24th January 2019 at 12:45 am Connection. A deep unspoken mutual awareness underpinned by emotion and rational thought. “I am Heathcliffe. He is always always in my mind” Emily Bronte. Reply info2 on 14th March 2019 at 10:00 pm Connection to me is understanding each others natural rhythm I get you, see you and accept you totally Reply Scott Stauffer on 16th March 2020 at 6:49 am Connection to me? When someone says “Thank You” just for you being you. When someone asks you to stay a lil longer. That text that says “Thanks for letting me vent. Thanks for not trying to fix me.” When you get that warm fuzzy butt leaning against you, instead of acting out. It’s that reach for someone when you need help. That full belly laugh, roll in the grass or dirt. It’s that smile of gratitude. The mostly non verbal communication that helps you feel acknowledged from somewhere unexpected. It’s that feeling that makes you take note and say “yes, I’ll do that again for you.” Connection is nothing if you don’t feel heard or appreciated. Whether through good times or a stressful time. More importantly, after a stressful situation. Reply Deborah House on 13th July 2024 at 6:25 am Connection is being comfortable in each others’ compan
y, where communication is easy, actions are anticipated and there is pleasure in being together. Connection requires trust, shared interests or views, seeing things from a different perspective, attention to detail, effort, tolerance and a desire to give joy. It can come easily or we may have to work at it – when it happens, life becomes easier and opportunities become endless. Reply Submit a Comment Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Comment * Name * Email * Website Submit Comment Δ